Are You a Bully?

I'm guessing your answer to that is probably a solid, "No!"  When we think about a bully, we usually think of some big mean kid that throws insults and threatens us with physical pain.  A bully is totally appalling and  someone that when we see coming we want to go the opposite direction in order to not cross paths with this hateful awful person.

Truth is though you might just be a bully, only you aren't bullying other people.  You are bullying yourself.  What are the things that you are saying to yourself?  Are those insults just as bad as anything a bully would say to you?  Or maybe they are even worse because your own personal bully knows your inner most secrets.  This bully knows everything about you, if you think you're too fat, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not feeling confident, not feeling loved and worst of all what you fear the most.  The bully even remembers things from the past that you feel bad about and will use them against you.

Start being your own best friend!

As you go about your day take note of the negative things you say to yourself.  Then one at a time begin working on positive affirmations in that area, first you'll begin to negate those thought patterns and when you keep working on it you will eventually replace them.  If you aren't sure where to start or what you want to say to yourself try,  I love and accept myself.

For those things that you have done in the past that you feel bad  or guilty about, maybe you insulted someone or maybe you are beating yourself up because you think you said something stupid.  Use the affirmation, I forgive the world, the world forgives me and I forgive myself.  Say it over and over until the negative feeling subsides.

If you'd like help with affirmations to use, visit our affirmations group.